I Am The Maid of Honor – Now What?

As the Maid of Honor, or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the wedding is a success.

I Am The Maid of Honor – Now What?
The bride has given you a great “honor” on her wedding day, but you are not “maid” of money!!

Weddings can be expensive (even the most modest ones), so be sure you have a frank discussion with the bride on what she expects from you financially to avoid surprises or disappointments later on.

I’ve found that most of my friends have been very generous with their wedding parties.  With some of us having been through pay cuts or being unemployed, it’s so great that they care enough to foot some of the bill! Largely, we are all familiar with the traditional wedding responsibilities of the Maid of Honor (MOH).  For research, there are many great sites on the internet that provide helpful lists and tips. My favorite is a timeline checklist that covers every base from the moment the brides asks you to be her maid of honor until the happy couple leaves for the honeymoon.

A Wedding Planner is the Maid of Honor’s greatest ally.  If the bride has a Wedding Planner, be sure to get a copy of the Planner’s itinerary, so you can keep track of times and sequence of events leading up to and including the big day.  Also, ask the Planner to copy you on all wedding emails and texts so you can support her/him.

For a successful wedding, your Maid of Honor package will need to include vast patience, organizational, team building and advisory skills and lots of energy. Make sure you have all the bridesmaids’ contact information (cell numbers and email addresses) on your phone, so you can send updates and reminders quickly and easily to the group or track someone down if they are (heaven forbid) late for the rehearsal or even the wedding.

Major Duties
•  Dress shopping – go with the bride to look for her dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses.
•  Plan the shower – and the Bachelorette party.
•  Spread the word – let folks know where the bride and groom are registered and field questions from wedding guests.
•  Keep a record of gifts – the MOH should jot down what presents the bride receiver at her show and who gave them to her.
•  Co-ordinate the bridesmaid duties – as “chief” bridesmaid, the MOH should schedule bridesmaids’ dress fittings.
•  Be the bride’s right-hand – carry out other tasks assigned by the bride.
•  Say a few words – prepare a toast to be given at the rehearsal or wedding dinner.  Here is a great place for tips to help you ace your speech.

Small But Important Details
• Make sure you have the groom’s ring on the wedding day.  It is suggested that you place it on your thumb, so that you are not fumbling for it during the ceremony.
• Fluff the bride’s dress and veil and check her hair and makeup just before she walks down the aisle.

From good to great Maid of Honor
Here is what the bride will REALLY need …  If you can pull this off, you will be the Ultimate Maid of Honor …
• Lend an ear and nod enthusiastically when the bride philosophizes about the wedding cake.
• Even if the bride seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH is expected to keep listening and smiling.
• Troubleshoot emotional crises.  In most cases, this means lots of tissues, hugging, and hand-holding.
• Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be a great relief and is a welcome alternative to venting.
• Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something THE FUN STUFF

We just threw a bachelorette party (See ideas for Bachelorette Party elsewhere in this blog.) here in Dallas last weekend and had a great time making it fun for the bride without breaking the bank. It can be simple to do this on a budget.  It doesn’t have to be crazy for the bride to have a memorable time.  With all the pre-wedding activities going on, having a chance to be with the bridal party and girlfriends allows the bride to relax and enjoy.   Everyone wore tiaras and boas; we served a fun punch, had pot-luck, watched chick flicks and ate popcorn.  The bride shared about how the couple met, how long they dated and how the groom proposed. The girlfriends asked about their first date, how long it took him to kiss her, and what brought them together.

We ended with everyone giving the bride their best relationship advice!  Of course, it ended with everyone falling down with laughter. Bottom line is have fun, enjoy the planning process, and stay engaged with every facet of it because it really does fly by.

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